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Ten years ago I lost a close friend, at her request.
She had decided to be more selective with her time,
and her new schedule would not include me.
I never knew what I had done.
I wanted to ask, but I chose to honor her wish.
It hurt so much, and it still does.
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| by Brandy 2012 |
Eight years ago I lost another friend,
a former student & artist, but not by her choice.
She spent the last year bravely battling stage 4
lung cancer. I did visit, call, e-mail, send stuff,
but she was the warrior. Brandy did everything medically asked of her. Her husband let me know,
of our loss. He was lost.It may be harder for men?
I think men are fixers. They want to fix it.
And sometimes you can't.
And sometimes you can't.
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As a teenager I remember my Dad being deeply upset for what seemed a long time when even a movie star passed? Some he had driven, as his job in the studios, but mostly I think he just felt like he knew them from movies? I watched this happened more often as he & they grew older.
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So now as I am older, I am on this side of dealing.
I miss this dear sweet lady. but know she is now
free of pain. Women are emotional, we cry,
we think & re-think. No easy answers. Loss is hard.
I have lost other good friends and miss them still ...
Wow!
Daniel’s quiet sacrifice for his daughters' education,
walking miles each day despite having nothing,
His belief in their potential changed their world.
A father's love is a force that can transform lives.
6 comments:
Hi Jacki, Well, most of our friends, and ourselves are in the final quarter of the game. I have been to 3 memorials in the last 2 months. And that can be saddening, depressing and somewhat lonesome. But then I think of how fortunate I am to have the friends that I do, just like you. I truly want to make a lunch date to see and laugh with you in person. But family responsibilities, doctor's appointments, and living space maintenance seems to always be taking the spare time. Still, seeing you vicariously with your silly, funny, amazing, creative blog each day, keeps me feeling close to you. Feeling grief is just the opposite side of feeling love. Remember in the ocean there are waves, but there are also troughs to let us see the waves. So that is what I keep in mind when I lose a friend. In a way in also makes the ones I have even more cherished. However, it is a reminder to be kind, find others who might be lonely and share a smile or a word with them. Just sayin'
Jacki, I also was touched by your thoughts about loss and grief. Just yesterday we took a wonderful walk and I found the first cyclamen, little flowers which grow in the woods, of this year. I love them so much and I immediately remembered my mother who also loved them so much. Last year it was her 50th year of death and it would have been her 100th birthday. I felt so sad thinking back and I ask myself what she would advise me. I think she would like me to be happy, not sad. So I try to be grateful and appreciate everything I have. I know not everybody is so fortunate.
Thank you for this wonderful blog, Jacki. Have a wonderful weekend!
Thank you, Anonymous! I know it is easier to comment using "Anonymous" but it helps me know who I am thanking and I can personalize, you can use just a first name at the end, or even initials?
Thank you, Elenor. I think you are so correct. I believe that your Mother is wishing for your happiness and is often with you. Do you ever feel that?
Jacki, it's me, Carrol Wolf. Perhaps a blond moment caused me to omit my name. Who knows? Family here: 9 at lunch and dinner yesterday, so maybe I was on overload. And now you know! :)
Dear Carrol, you are entitled to as many blonde moments as needed, you do so much for so many. Thank you for taking time to comment during your heavy schedule.
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